Everyone has their own sexual needs. This might not be discussed as often as other parts of relationships, bu everyone has a libido that works at a different pace. It's critical to sit down with your partner if differences in libido start to cause problems in your relationship or sex life.
When I interviewed Cynthia Fine, Community Health Educator at Planned Parenthood of Greater Washington and North Idaho, a few months ago about painful sex, we had a great, in-depth conversation about not only pain during intercourse, but sexually transmitted infections; the importance of creating a positive, supportive atmosphere if you're having sex; good communication; and a whole raft of other topics. I had a lot to say and only a little bit of space to say it in, and inevitably, I left something important out. I want to fix that by saying a few words about choosing a good lubricant.
When it comes to giving oral sex, nothing gives anyone the right to ignore a partner's “no.†But if your partner refuses to do something that you want, that's where good communication and negotiation comes in, as well as a good-hearted willingness to give new things a try.
In our modern, sex-negative culture, I'll be the first to argue for a sex-positive worldview. But the proper character of that worldview should be acceptance, not compulsion, and an acceptance including those who simply don't want sex.
I want to talk to my boyfriend about sex, but I think he is a lot less comfortable talking about it than I am. We've been dating for a while (and are sexually active), but I don't know how to have the...
What is normal when it comes to sex? We need to be careful when answering this question to not conflate two very different definitions of normal, both of which are problematic.
