Keeping Condoms Snug and Sound
Spencer Wharton
February 21, 2013
My boyfriend and I have recently become sexually active (we're both newbies) and we're having some serious issues with the condoms slipping/breaking. So, I guess I have two questions: What are some reasons that condoms slip/break, and do you have any tips for how to avoid those things? -Doesn't Wan...
Uneven Libidos Require Cooperation to Resolve
Spencer Wharton
February 14, 2013
My girlfriend and I are both seniors at Whitman, and I'm worried that our busy schedules are hurting our sex life. On a normal night, we'll curl up on the couch together, and maybe cuddle a little, but even when I try to suggest sex by giving her a massage, she tends to fall asleep. Sometimes, I'll ask if ...
Footnote: Choosing Lube

Spencer Wharton
January 30, 2013
When I interviewed Cynthia Fine, Community Health Educator at Planned Parenthood of Greater Washington and North Idaho, a few months ago about painful sex, we had a great, in-depth conversation about not only pain during intercourse, but sexually transmitted infections; the importance of creating a positive, supportive atmosphere if you're having sex; good com...
Cultural Conditioning No Excuse for Selfish Sex
Spencer Wharton
November 8, 2012
So, I've been hooking up with this guy for a couple weeks and we recently had sex. The night starts off with me pleasing him orally but he doesn't return the favor and things just lead straight to intercourse. I want him to go down on me but I don't know how to suggest it. Should I just come right out a...
Runaway sex-positivism creates obligations, overlooks nonsexual
Spencer Wharton
October 18, 2012
When it comes to relationships, Whitties either go for short-term hookups or long-term commitments, or so it's said. Regardless of which you go for, however, there tend to be underlying expectations of sex. Leave a party with someone and we expect that means the night's ending with sex. Date someone fo...
We Can Work It Out: Talking About Sex
Spencer Wharton
October 10, 2012
I want to talk to my boyfriend about sex, but I think he is a lot less comfortable talking about it than I am. We've been dating for a while (and are sexually active), but I don't know how to have the dialogue without coming across as pushy or invasive. I'll be honest, I'm a little nervous to bring it ...
Defining ‘normal’ needlessly moralizes sex
Spencer Wharton
September 27, 2012
I have not had sex ever. I like the idea of sex; I respect it. However, certain things such as blow jobs and miscellaneous practices that don't involve vaginal penetration sound quite unnatural and even perverted to me. However, they seem to be frequently practiced. I guess my question is, in heterose...