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There are two primary arguments against the celebration of Valentine’s Day. The first, is the “Hallmark holiday” argument: the idea that Feb. 14 signifies nothing but corporate dominance. The other is that Valentine’s Day promotes romance to the point of causing great discomfort and embarrassment to those without a partner.
Valentine’s Day, or St. Valentine’s Day as it is called by some other cultures, has been celebrated since the High Middle Ages, a time when formalized courtship was fashionable. According to a Belarusian myth, Saint Valentine carved out his own heart as a gesture of undying love after being rejected by his mistress. Feb. 14 allegedly became associated with romantic love in Chaucer’s circle of friends, and has since been celebrated in the Western world and beyond.
In America, Valentine’s Day has long been considered a commercial holiday, invented and exploited by the card and candy companies for the sole purpose of prying money from the hands of consumers. Indeed, it is hard to repress the cynic within upon seeing the halls of Safeway crammed with pink and red décor, fluffy white teddy bears, and Russell Stover’s heartshaped candy boxes.
Such blatant signs of commercialism have led many citizens of the new millennium to reject the holiday altogether, through boycott and other forms of protest. This phenomenon has spread far and wide, from the declaration of Singles Awareness Day (also celebrated on the 14th) to the official banning of Valentine’s Day in Saudi Arabia.
There are also many cultures that have devoted Feb. 14 to friendship and acts of appreciation, from Finland’s Friend’s Day to Guatemala’s Day of Love and Friendship. Though our American celebration is irrefutably targeted towards lovers, there is no need to exclude the other forms of love, which are both bountiful and equally beautiful, from Valentine’s Day. If you find yourself stuck on the 14th with no lover, there are still plenty of ways to enjoy the holiday.
Anonymous acts of kindness and hand-made crafts, for example, provide perfectly lovely, non- (potentially even anti-) consumer solutions. Most any friend or family member would be delighted to receive such an expression of love. Rejoicing in love is an uplifting and uncommon act that should surely prevent feelings of lonesomeness.
Valentine’s Day could also be used for recognizing and enjoying American consumerism. There are many antivalentinist individuals who are not opposed to movies, and everybody likes candy, so why not get together and watch My Bloody Valentine (the original Canadian slasher from 1981) and eat Red Vines? At least one treasure among those that comprise the vast ocean of pop culture is truly loved by every American. This love, while petty, is deserving of celebration in and of itself, if not with friends.
However, if you still find yourself lonely on Valentine’s Day, in spite of the relationships which already exist in your life, it is probably because there is another relationship in your life which is either desired or in need of repair. If this is the case, it is strongly recommended that you be bold and take measures to correct the situation. Whether it is sending a valentine to a crush or calling your estranged parent, the action is worth the risk, for our time here is too short to be spent wondering about missed opportunities or regretting past falters. Let it be spent with love.