This past week, a sex tape of Associated Students of Whitman College President junior Beemon Shethmoozian surfaced. The video of the ASWC president, a plate of kale, a giant stuffed teddy bear and multiple members of the Whitman Events Board in what is presumably an empty Town Hall meeting has spread across campus like wildfire.
Kink can be practiced safely precisely because of the safeguards, communication and trust embedded in its context. Mainstream kink, however—kink without context—is nothing but a model for dangerous sex and harmful relationships. In skillful hands, a whip is a toy. In the wrong hands, it's a weapon.
Allow yourself the time when you wake up in the morning after a dream of passion to contemplate the boundaries of your own sexual desires, because we all may be a little freakier than we allow ourselves to think. And that possibility is just too damn interesting to ignore.
“Consent is sexy.†It was one of the many taglines branded across the “Pink Loves Consent†site, a webpage that appeared to be promoting a new line of Victoria's Secret underwear. A hoax by Baltimore feminist group Force, it went viral in early December of last year.
When I interviewed Cynthia Fine, Community Health Educator at Planned Parenthood of Greater Washington and North Idaho, a few months ago about painful sex, we had a great, in-depth conversation about not only pain during intercourse, but sexually transmitted infections; the importance of creating a positive, supportive atmosphere if you're having sex; good communication; and a whole raft of other topics. I had a lot to say and only a little bit of space to say it in, and inevitably, I left something important out. I want to fix that by saying a few words about choosing a good lubricant.
It is certainly a tired argument to suggest that the problem with open relationships is the non-monogamy, rather than any number of issues which can plague any relationship. However, if an open relationship really is not working, It is worth considering if you truly want to be in a non-monogamous relationship.
From time to time, I get questions in my box that I can't fit into a whole weekly column, but deserve an answer anyway. Over the course of winter break, I thought I'd blow through some of these. Enjoy!
I was yelling at the TV for a lot of election night. I was at the Pio's election night liveblog headquarters (read: Managing Editor Libby Arnosti's house), watching a live feed of election coverage, as...
